The next 365 days

I’m 39 today, 365 days closer to 40. Normally getting a year older doesn’t bother me but this birthday feels so different. The last year has been a draining emotional ride. Going from not being able to get pregnant to two miscarriages almost sucked the life out of me. I’m still not hopeful that a baby will be in our future. I decided that we’re not going to do anything extreme to have a baby, no IVF or insemination. And there is an end date for how long I will focus on this goal, 365 days. If it doesn’t happen by the big 40, then it just wasn’t in my future and I will move on. Even as I am writing this I’m in tears, I’m saying good-bye to a dream but I believe that giving it an end date it will help me see the light at the end of the tunnel which will keep me sane. I’ll trade in the minivan for a mini cooper and drive off into the sunset.

At the last minute I decided to go back to school. I’ve been wanting to finish getting my BS for a long time but something else always got in the way. I’m going part-time, two classes, algebra and sociology. Classes started this week and I’m the oldest person in the class. Things so far are going well but I’m only two days in to it. Give it three weeks and I’ll be pulling my hair out. It’s all good though, I feel like this is the path I should be on right now.

I have the next two days off, I’m going to enjoy my special day with family and friends.

“I remain now, and will always be, a Duckman”

It was the summer of 1984, I was thirteen going on fourteen, I was leaving the comfort of my tiny catholic school to the big scary high school down the street. There wasn’t a lot for a kid to do in the small town we lived in, the pool during the day and movies at night. I had the routine down pat. I remember seeing a preview for a movie about a girl who’s family forgot her birthday and I knew that I had to see that movie the moment it came out. Now, Hendersonville, NC isn’t a metropolis and it was by no means a hub for pop culture which meant that when movies were released it would take four to six weeks before we could see them at our main street theater. The movie was Sixteen Candles and it launched my love affair for 80′s teen movies that is still strong today. I think I managed to drag my BFF Carolyn to go with me and I don’t think she was as giddy about the movie as I was. I loved every minute of it. I envisioned that my high school experience would be much like the Samantha’s. Ok, I was WAY off on that one, its a movie, I know. I wanted to hear “If You Leave” at my prom.

That movie also kicked off my admiration for all things John Hughes, as I’m sure it did for every kid gowing up in the 80′s. A day doesn’t go by without a reference to one of his movies. The movies are embedded in my brain and when one pops up on TV, I stop what I’m doing and take time to watch them again. John Hughes understood what it was like to grow up and relate it the masses. Then there is the music, the music that defined my high school existence. My sister tells me all the time that I listen to way too much 80′s alternative, but it’s so much of who I am I don’t think I could stop if I tried. I look at my nephews and my niece Maggie, will they cherish these movies as much as I do? One can only hope.

Now a year after his untimely passing I’m taking this moment to honor a man who defined a generation:

John Hughes, I will never forget you.

Living fabulous

When is it not totally crazy in the Hannafin household? The past few weeks have been just been busy. Busy, busy, busy. When I’m not at work, I’m doing stuff with the family, what little free time has been used up with getting crap done around the house. Even Facebook has been a victim and I can quickly update that from my phone, that is when the twins are not playing a game on it. Granny has been in town for the past week and it’s been nice to have time to visit with her. We babysat the twins over the weekend while their parents went to a wedding in Napa. I love those little guys with all my heart but Jesus Christ on a cracker, they can suck up what little energy my body can create in a twenty-four hour period! But I am happy to be there when they need me. We also enjoyed a lovely visit with Courtney’s cousin and her son who is a year older than the twins. The three boys got along great, like they had known each other for years. They are all in their tattling phase right now, so there was a lot of “Elisabet he took my book. Elisabet he hit me. Elisabet he won’t play with me”. Ahh those special family moments.

Since there is nothing on TV and my in-laws don’t subscribe to any movie channels, I had time to read. I started reading The Bucolic Plague by Josh Kilmer-Purcell. If you haven’t been watching The Fabulous Beekman Boys on Planet Green you are missing out on some great television. The book provides a background on how Josh and Brent found the Beekman mansion and decided that they wanted to change their lives. I was truly touched and inspired by their story. It made me think more about how I want to change things in my life. If they can do it so can I! Of course I can’t drop everything and buy a farm, but I can make little changes such as building my garden.

The whole garden thing has been in the plans for a few months but in the horrible Arizona summer there isn’t much I can plant. I am cracking the whip on Courtney to get the beds made so I can be ready to plant next month. I have been researching what I would like to grow and what can grow in Arizona, it looks like I am going to go the heirloom vegetable route. Stuff that we eat now only better. I’m also working on a growing schedule so we can eventually can and freeze stuff to have during the hot summer. I’m actually excited to make my own pickles and can tomatoes. I used to do that with my Nana when I was kid, of course I hated it then. Maybe it will be something that I can pass down to Maggie and the twins some day.

The quilt has been basted and is ready to quilt but I haven’t had time to sit down to get it done. I started practicing free motion quilting on practice squares and I just don’t have the hang of it yet. I’m trying the stippling pattern, I keep trapping myself and crossing stitches. Practice, practice, practice. I’ll get the hang of it soon.

The other thing that has me a bit preoccupied…guess…Twilight: Eclipse! It’s simply amazing but did you think that I would say anything different? Ha ha ha. I’ve seen it five times now and I still cry at the same part of the movie. I can’t help it, seeing it on the big screen is exactly how I pictured it in my head. Waiting for fifteen hours to see was totally worth it, I can’t wait for Breaking Dawn!

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Progress

So there it is…my first quilt top. I have to take off the borders and square things up a bit. I have all next week, well except Tues & Wed, to get it done. I have another quilt in my head, read to burst out for all to see. More progress pics soon.

On repeat

Dayle and I went to see Greg Laswell at the Rhythm Room the other night and it was one of the best shows I’ve been to in a long time. I fell in love with his music a few years back when I was just wandering around the net. His music has been on every playlist ever since. What I loved most is that everyone there were true fans, fans who seemed passionate about the music just as much as I am. I love small shows like that. Go get the newest album, Take a Bow. I promise you will love it as much as I do.

Greg Laswell “Take Everything” HD from FVMMO FILMS on Vimeo.

Apprecation

I’m at the movies with my office crew waiting to see the ATeam movie. What a cool way to spend an afternoon. Since I have a few minutes I thought I would blog a bit.

Courtney is in Taos, NM with Sean until Saturday. I’m keeping busy doing stuff around the house. The dogs must have known that Court wasn’t home last night, Molly and Winston sat at the edge of the bed facing the door, barking at every little noise and ready to attack. I’ve been getting in some pool time, trying to get some sort of tan. I used to tan so easily as a kid but now I go from pastey white to lobster red in no time.

I am loving the new sewing machine. I ordered all the fabrics to make a quilt for Maggie. I have the week before 4th of July off and I hope to get it done then. I sewed two market bags and got more fabric for a few more. The urge to sew is taking place for my urge to scrapbook. But I was thinking that scrapbooking tonight wasn’t a bad idea. I think that I’ll try to organize my crap before I begin anything big. My craft table is a mess. I think all the disarray keeps me from being creative, I hate walking into that room. Well if I’m going to clean it up, tonight would be a good time to start. I can obsess better when Courtney is gone.

I’ll post pics of the market bag when I get home.

A better Sunday

To add to my homeowner drama, yesterday as I was doing laundry I noticed water on the floor near the water heater. Fabulous, now we need to get a new water heater. What more can go wrong around this place and why does crap like this happen all at once??? So I spent the day stressed out about how we were going to pay for a new fridge and water heater. Such a waste of time for me because when I’m stressed like this I tend not to get anything done. I just mope around the house and watch endless hours of TV. Courtney and I stopped by this shop that sells used appliances for really cheap to see what they had in stock. This is one of the reasons I love Courtney, he has this ability to strike up conversations with people, like repair men, with no fear of saying anything stupid. I could never do that. So Courtney does just that with the refrigerator repair guy and asks if he could take a look at ours before we drop some cash on a new one. The repair guy came out, took a look at it and said it was a simple fix. After 30 minutes and $76 he was done, and we were spared from having to buy a new fridge. It was such a load off my shoulders! Now I could put that fridge money towards a new water heater. The bummer part is that we had to throw out a bunch of food but I can live with that.

I got a good nights sleep and I’m motivate again to get things done today. Being the nerd that I am, I leave you with a tribute to a great ad campaign that has come to an end:

Being a homeowner sucks

I come home from work hoping to enjoy a cool tasty treat on this 100 degree day, but instead my refrigerator is craping out. It’s barely five years old! It’s not a fancy model, white, simple, one would think that it should last longer. So now I’m freaking out. How much is it going to cost to fix, is it even fixable and how much will a new one cost? Then this has me thinking about the whole baby thing. If we can barely afford a new fridge how could we afford a kid? If we buy a fridge at full retail price that pretty much wipes out any saving we have. Savings that I have been hoarding away for the last few months in the hopes to have some sort of cushion should a car crap out. It’s things like this that make me think that having a kid isn’t in our cards. I know that you’re never ready to have kids but I feel like one needs to be more prepared than we are. I suppose I need to roll with the punches and cross my fingers that we win the lottery.

Disappointed

I was hoping to have better news today which is why I’ve waited to post something. The insemination didn’t take and it goes without saying that I’m completely devastated. I had such a good feeling that we would were going to be successful. Now I am an emotional wreck because my hormones are out of control. I’m crying every few minutes! What’s next?? Since I literally put all my eggs in one basket we can’t afford to do another cycle until next year. When I started this process I put a cap on how long we’ll try, if nothing happens by the time I turn 40 then it just wasn’t meant to be. I have just over a year to go. I just don’t know how much more dissappointment I can take.

It’s almost over

My sabbatical is almost over. Where did the last six weeks go? I do feel really good about what I’ve accomplished on my time off. I have this overwhelming urge to get things in order. I’ve gone through our closets and dressers and was able to get rid of a ton of stuff. I swear our laundry machine has not stopped in the last three days. And what’s good is that I’m folding clothes right away instead of letting them back up in the laundry baskets. It feels good to have order again. We’re acid washing the pool this weekend. I can’t wait to have that chore checked off my list.

On the baby front, we’ve decided to go the low tech path, clomid with insemination. I have a strong feeling that it will work this time. Once the pregnancy test comes back positive I think being on the progesterone for 9-10 weeks will help prevent an early termination. Right now I’m waiting for my OPT to come back with a positive result. I have the mid-cycle ultrasound on Sunday, hopefully it will be good news.

In case you have not seen it yet, here is the final Eclipse trailer:

All I can say is WOW! And yes I screamed like a little girl after watching the trailer. I got chills just watching it. It’s going to be an amazing movie! June 30th can’t come fast enough.